I’m baaaa-AAAACK! Yes, yes, I know….So we’re not going to even go there ;) Let’s just say I grossly underestimated how busy and tired I would be between being an over-night counselor at children’s camp, keeping my house in order and going home for a vacation/ministry trip. So let’s just skip all the excuses and go straight to the apology, I’m sorry, can you ever forgive me? Thanks. Moving on.
I’ve had some time to muse over this site in the past month and I found myself wondering if it was actually worth it to keep going. I mean who in today’s society really wants to read a blog on modesty anyhow? Nobody is interested in keeping their clothes on, most fashion labels are trying to find new ways to reveal as much of the female form as possible. So why even try to fight a losing battle?
Most people think modesty is outdated and prudish. That if you’re modest it means you’re boring and stuffy. I mean come on, if I mention the word modest what’s the first picture to pop into your head? Probably a girl with a long French braid in a turtle-neck and ankle-length jean skirt. I mean really, who wants to be “modest” anyways?
I’d basically given up all hope or desire to continue this site as I really didn’t want to write something that no one was reading, and then I met Lisa. As I said above, I was an overnight group leader for a children’s camp they put on here in Kansas City. It was loads of fun, but also very challenging. One of the girls I had the privilege to work with this past week was named Lisa (not her real name). She was a 12 year old beauty that was well beyond her years. Already at 12 years old, our culture had told her that her skin was too dark, that she was fat (at 98 pounds), that she had to wear lots of make-up to be pretty, and she had to flaunt her body in tight or skin baring clothes to be accepted. Is this the standard we’re setting for the next generation? Is this who we want them to grow up to be?
Lisa is a gorgeous Latin-American pre-teen who is being robbed of her childhood because we as a culture tell her she needs to grow up faster. Who is setting the standard for young women anyhow? Oh yeah, the media. Magazine’s and TV shows that show unrealistic pictures of models and actresses who starve themselves to look the way they do. We idolize these women who wear a size 0 and practically disappear if they turn to the side. We tell young women that they have to look like these stick figures. That they have to dress like them, act like them, be like them to be loved accepted and successful.
And it’s wrong.
It’s time to set a new standard. I’m sick of being held to a standard that I will never achieve and won’t make me happy. Baring my body for people to leer at a gossip about and starving myself so I can be one size smaller will never make me happy or fulfilled; whoever tells you differently is lying.
The truth is we’re all trying to fill a void. We all crave acceptance and love, we want to be successful. But we will never be fulfilled if we follow the ways of man and the world. Only God can bring total fulfillment to our lives. It’s as plain and simple as that.
As to what that has to do with this blog, well…I’m still in the process of completely figuring that one out. But what I do know is that I am created in the image of God and it’s a privilege; not a right. It’s wrong for me to hate my body or want to be someone else or looks another way, why? Because I look like God!
So if I hate my body; I hate the image of God.
If I hate the way I look; I hate the handy work of God.
I am writing this blog because I believe in fighting for young women. I believe in fighting for true beauty and real self-esteem. I will continue to fight against the cultural norms that tell me I have to dress a certain way to be accepted. I will continue to ask God what He feels on the subject and how the Bible translates into my everyday life. I will continue to learn how to best reflect the image of God.
So why keep writing this blog? Because there are girls out there who deserve to know the truth.